Why You Just Can't Say "No" in the Heat of the Moment.

Like the title says, just saying 'no' does not work in the heat of the moment. Humans generally make poorer decisions while under the influence of strong emotions, notably - sexual arousal.

Parents tend to tell their children just to say no. Since that doesn't work, what should parents advise their children to do? The article says to talk to the teenager and suggest avoiding situations where the teen is in a room alone with a person of the opposite gender that they may find attractive. Who would feel the urge to have sex if there's other people in the room? It also says to ensure condoms are readily available, just in case. I disagree with that. Isn't pregnancy a motivating factor for teens not to have sex? So wouldn't a tool to aid in preventing pregnancy just going to become an excuse to cave into that pressure?

It also says ". . .abstinence nearly always loses to passion in the heat of the moment." That's likely to be true. Maybe our high school "sex ed" (Health) courses should discover a new way to preach abstinence. From my experiences in Health, the teacher advocates just saying 'no', which has been shown to not work in the heat of the moment.

Personality Types.

Jung Typology: ENFP

i've taken this test before and got the same results. it fits me pretty well. i like sponaneity and to be around people.

Understand Yourself - Personality Lab:
Extraversion: 81
Agreeableness: 74
Conscientiousness: 68
Neuroticism: 18
Openness to Experience: 66

Big Seven - Planet Personality (scales of 1-5)
Ambition 4.10 (high)
Sociability 3.90 (high)
Likeability 4.40(High)
Prudence 2.90(Medium)
Adjustment 4.00(High)
School Success 4.50(High)
Intellectance 4.50(High)

the descriptions here also fit me quite well.

Workplace Values - Planet Personality (my score/average)
Need for achievement 36.00/36.12
Need for independence 34.00/33.09
Need for recognition 34.00/31.24
Need for relationships 34.00/33.16
Need for support 30.00/33.67
Need for work conditions 29.00/31.11

Im not so sure how to interpret those. but i think it's interesting.

Your score on Overall Positive Affect was 55.00. The average score is 31.63.
Your score on overall Negative Affect was 27.00. The average score is 31.61.
Your score on Fear was 16.00. The average score is 48.14.
Your score on Hostility was 11.00. The average score is 20.76.
Your score on Guilt was 14.00. The average score is 15.63.
Your score on Sadness was 10.00. The average score is 18.92.
Your score on Joviality was 41.00. The average score is 19.24.
Your score on Self-Assuredness was 31.00. The average score is 30.77.
Your score on Attentiveness was 20.00. The average score is 26.84.
Your score on Shyness was 12.00. The average score is 20.69.
Your score on Fatigue was 11.00. The average score is 14.03.
Your score on Serenity was 17.00. The average score is 15.38.
Your score on Surprise was 16.00. The average score is 12.95.
Your score on Satisfaction with Life was 29.00.

Dec 05, 2008.

Pencil placement : upper lip
ow, i couldn't keep it on my upper lip because it didn't let me breathe through my mouth and my face was cramping. bummmer.

my average score was 5.8

part 2!

dear family,

college life is okay. i'm not making very many friends, but what's the point anyways? college hasn't been living up to what i presume it to be. maybe because i haven't been out much, i usually just study in my dorm. but then again, i probably wouldn't enjoy their company much. my roommate thinks i'm odd because i don't try to socialize and tend to opt out of any activities, but whatever.

chris.